Wednesday, March 20, 2013
In Loving Memory & Rock On
Yesterday, I was deeply saddened to learn that one of our most dedicated and enthusiastic mature learners, B., had a massive heart attack and died.
As distressing as this news was, I was also overjoyed at the amazing music therapy connections we made with B. and his wife before he had to leave us.
At the very first rock band rehearsal, B. and his wife E. were the first two mature learners there. The first thing I noticed about B. was his smile and that he was wearing a Phantom of the Opera t-shirt, which happened to be the same Phantom t-shirt I have. That was a great ice breaker. We talked about musicals and many other types of music we both enjoyed.
Shortly, we were commiserating about how hard it can be to find good parking on campus. B. told me if I ever find a good spot and have to leave it, I should mark it off with police tape, chalk out a body outline, and leave a note saying, "This is what happened to the last person who took my spot."
Already B. was sharing great wisdom with me, and I'd known him for less than 5 minutes.
One week, the Mature Learners meeting was cancelled because of snow, but the Drury students came for rehearsal because B. and E. braved the weather. They were enjoying their time with us that much.
One of the songs on the program is Bon Jovi's "It's My Life." I am getting to teach this song to the group, and my adivsor and the group director, Dr. Natalie Wlodarczyk, discussed with me how we could vary the program a little bit more. I suggested we could make the verses of "It's My Life" a solo. I also had a feeling about who I should ask to sing it.
B. was a little unsure at first because he had never heard the song, but he promised me he would go home and listen to it that week while he read over the lyrics.
When we met again the next week, B. was on board. He loved that song! I was glad my gut was right.
B. was supposed to sing the solo with the group for the first time next week. Instead, his life journey came to an end. However, his wife called Dr. Wlodarczyk to share some things, and this is what she relayed to me.
B. had been practicing the song constantly. He felt that the lyrics really described how he had tried to live his life because he had already lived through one heart attack and he knew the odds of another were pretty good. His wife quoted back the chorus, "It's my life. It's now or never. I'm ain't gonna live forever. I just wanna live while I'm alive," and requested that the students from rock band sing this at B.'s funeral. We have also decided that the Intergenerational Rock Band concert will be dedicated to B.
While I know there will be a hole in my heart next Tuesday when I come for rock band rehearsal and I don't see B. standing in the back and beaming, I am beyond overjoyed that we could connect through music therapy and that we could teach each other something before B. died.
From B., I learned some practical parking wisdom, and more importantly, how to LIVE each day of my life because no one is guaranteed a single tomorrow.
With a little help from me and the rest of the rock band, B. discovered his inner rock star.
So, to this amazing gentleman that touched my life in such a brief span, I say, "Rock on."
Sunday, March 17, 2013
How Did I Get Here?
How did I get here?
I never imagined I would have the desire or ability to find myself in that situation when I first began studying the flute years ago in 7th grade. Even though I didn't know it, that is indeed where my personal journey towards music therapy began.
As a small child, I loved music and would spend hours at a time picking out tunes by ear on the family piano. I couldn't get enough. A family friend offered free piano lessons, which I took for a while, but being young and foolish, I decided maybe piano lessons weren't so awesome after all.
The summer before my 7th grade year, I heard a flute trio play for the very first time. After that, there was no going back. I had to learn how to do that. It was no longer a want, but a need.
I started private flute lessons and band that year and threw myself full force into both. If you asked me what I wanted be when I grew up, it was absolutely very clearly, "either a band director or a professional flutist."
Music education or performance were my only two options, as far as I was concerned. And, of course, I only listened to classical because pop music was "dumb" and "shallow."
Now I just laugh at my 7th grade self. (And also want to kick her for not listening to pop music sooner.)
Things continued more or less in this fashion through my sophomore year of high school. In my second semester, I was assigned to write a research paper on a "personally relevant question." So, my question was whether I should pursue music education or performance.
In my initial searching, I found the American Music Therapy Association (AMTA) website. The more I read, the more it became a moment like hearing the flute trio. I very quickly realized that this was my niche. The research paper I turned in was not about education vs. performance. Instead, I turned in a paper about the effectiveness of music therapy, the career options for music therapists, and what my personal action plan should be to send me on my way to MT-BC. I got to present my findings to my entire English class, so I was already advocating for music therapy.
That same year, I took a career and aptitude test at school. My top three results were music performance, counseling, and health care. My teacher laughed and shook his head and said, "Good luck finding one career that's all three of those." I told him that it meant I was supposed to be a music therapist.
Do you have a personal music therapy journey to share? Send me an email or share in the comments!
Saturday, January 19, 2013
Saturday Shout Out: Justin Roberts!
Easier to Do would work well for lyric analysis. You might ask clients, “What is hard for you to do right now?” “What is something that used to be hard but now is easier for you to do?”
Music therapists, have you ever used his music in a session? Would you?
Be sure to like Justin Roberts on Facebook and follow him on Twitter!
Friday, January 18, 2013
Music Therapy on the IEP: Layman's Terms for Parents As Advocates
Sunday, January 13, 2013
What I Have Done With Music Therapy
Because of confidentiality, my family and friends can't just drop in during the day to see what I am doing as part of my music therapy practicum hours.
To join in with this month of advocacy, and to give the people in my life a window into what I do with clients, I am sharing some of the amazing things I have gotten to be a part of as a music therapy student.
I have:
Helped a man with a visual impairment and autism use his voice more appropriately (normal speaking range instead of Mickey-Mouse high).
Helped the same client learn to reach out, feel and identify objects and materials in his environment.
Helped a woman on hospice care strengthen her larynx (voice-box) so she could continue to enjoy solid food with her husband for as long as possible.
Helped the same woman recall and validate memories of her life using her favorite familiar music.
Helped calm her anxiety and lower her respiration rate using music.
Helped a group of teenagers with autism learn some new songs using a rock band setup, and in the process they worked on social skills, direction-following, and appropriate emotional expression.
Helped a group of residents in an assisted-living facility maintain their motor and cognitive skills, and improve their quality of life and self-esteem through the rehearsals and performances of a tone chime choir.
Helped a child with a developmental disability access more motor skills and speech.
This is just a sampling of the ways I have been able to participate in music therapy as a student in the course of two semesters of practicum. I am truly and deeply humbled by the power of music therapy, and blessed by the privilege of working with these clients.
I cannot express my excitement to become a board-certified music therapist (MT-BC) and to get to experience music therapy moments all day, every day.
Introduction: Advocacy --> Recognition --> Access
Since 2005, the American Music Therapy Association and the Certification Board for Music Therapists have collaborated on a State Recognition Operational Plan. The primary purpose of this plan is to get music therapy and our MT-BC credential recognized by individual states so that citizens can more easily access our services. The AMTA Government Relations staff and CBMT Regulatory Affairs staff provide guidance and technical support to state task forces throughout the country as they work towards state recognition. To date, their work has resulted in over 35 active state task forces, 2 licensure bills passed in 2011, 1 licensure bill passed in 2012, and an estimated 7 bills being filed in 2013 that seek to create either title protection or a licensure for music therapy. This month, our focus is on YOU and on getting you excited about advocacy.What music therapy stories do you have to share?
Friday, November 23, 2012
Saturday Shout Out: Are You Feeling It?
Today's shout out goes to fellow Drury student, Tyler Stokes.
Tyler gets a shout out because I never seen any musician who allows musical emotion to show in his face and body quite as naturally as he does.
I think advanced musical training can tend to train our natural expressive reactions right out of us. Sometimes, we get "conservatory face" and if it weren't for the quality of the music being produced, one might think that the musician isn't feeling anything.
A few weeks ago, I was sight-reading an etude with a middle school student. Midway through, she stopped and giggled. I was baffled. What about sight-reading is giggle-worthy? She told me that the music took a turn she wasn't expecting and it filled her with surprise and delight. WOW.
How often would we allow ourselves to giggle while making music anymore? Or to sigh? Weep? Grimace? Or grin?
Would it be the end of the world if a musicians on stage looked like they were having fun?
One thing I can tell you is that Tyler has this expression down to an art. His performances are inspiring, both in sound and sight. Shameless plug alert: You can follow Tyler on Twitter (@TylerStoked) and be sure to check out his fantastic band, Delta Sol Revival (@DeltaSolRevival).
So, in honor of Tyler's Saturday Shout Out, I challenge you to be a little less inhibited the next time you make music. Are you feeling it?
Monday, November 19, 2012
What I Would Love to Share with Music Educators
I spend a lot of time thinking about music education and music educators, because every single current or future music therapist is able to do what they do because they had positive experiences in music education at some point. Our first formal musical learning experiences came from music educators.
That fact alone means that music therapists should have a vested interest in the continuing well-being of music educators and the vitality of their curriculum.
And on that thought, here some of the things music therapists know that I would love to share with music educators.
Sunday, November 18, 2012
Roll With the Changes
REO Speedwagon: "Roll With the Changes"
As music therapists, when something happens in our lives, we can almost always think of the song that accompanies what is going on. This week, "Roll With the Changes" by REO Speedwagon has been my theme song.
Dr. Natalie Wlodarczyk tells us at Drury all the time that our greatest assets as music therapists are our flexibility and our creativity.
This became especially true as this week, it was announced that due to overall budgetary constraints, Drury's Master of Music Therapy program will not be accepting any new students for the next foreseeable future.
This decision came down at the same point I was getting ready to begin taking some graduate coursework. I absolutely love Drury and I think we have a fantastic program for music therapy. Our students go out prepared for their internships and have great experiences, as a general rule. Our curriculum is rigorous and we have a clinic for music therapy services on campus.
Obviously, if it were up to me, I would have been extremely happy to stay in our great environment at Drury and do my graduate work there.
But, things changed, and so you roll with the changes. My husband and I sat down with our five to ten-year plan and used our flexibility and creativity to roll with the changes. It really is true that flexibility and creativity are my greatest assets, both for working with clients and for navigating life. While I am disappointed that I won't be able to do my graduate work at Drury, it is also exciting to have the opportunity to make new plans.
So, I would second what Dr. Wlodarczyk says - flexibility and creativity will get you through anything, whether it's a session that doesn't go how you were expecting or a significant change to your educational plans.
Whatever may be going on in life right now, it's always a good time to turn some pages and roll with the changes!
Friday, November 9, 2012
The Rough Edges and Beyond
Music therapists see people at some of the most raw and vulnerable points in their lives, when things are the roughest. We see precious pre-term infants, struggling for a chance to live, and equally precious human beings on the other end of the lifespan who are actively dying.We are called in to assist with nearly every other rough patch of life in between.
The therapeutic relationship takes an enormous amount of trust on the part of the people we assist. Our clients must trust us enough with all of their vulnerabilities to allow us in to help. Music therapists are blessed enough to be invited in to those most vulnerable moments of human existence and to make those moments feel a little safer, a little smoother.
In fact, one of my favorite things about music therapists is our ability to see so much more than our client's rough edges. We see beyond - to potential, to creative expression, to personal growth in the face of tremendous challenges. When we look at a client, we assess and acknowledge their "rough spots" and all the areas that need improving, but we also focus so much of our energy on what each client can do.
Music is so very adaptable on so many levels. Everyone can engage in music in some way, no matter how small or how passively. How humbling. How utterly amazing.
You must be a special kind of person to expose oneself to all the rough edges of humanity, to throw oneself into the work of smoothing those edges. It takes a special kind of person to clearly see a person's limitations and to also see far, far beyond them.
It takes a music therapist.
So on this gorgeous Friday afternoon, I am thankful for all the music therapists and other helping professionals the world over who go about this work on a daily basis. May you find that you are able to see the good and the potential in every client you meet.
